That Old Feeling
Where to Find Love.
How many people go through life feeling that they are lonely or unloved. Even married people go through stages where they feel that they are in this sort of relationship, some have never been in a long term relationship. These people try to tell you that they are happy being alone, but you get to a point in your life where you want someone to share your life with.
Are your expectations of yourself and/or your partner unrealistic? Do you think that the love that is portrayed on TV and in the Movies is real? Nothing is ever as easy as you see on TV, you have to work at a relationship to make it work, nothing will ever drop into your lap or fall into place without effort. As the Bible says, “God helps those who help themselves”.
Some people may think of these girls as prostitutes, I don’t, I think of them as girls ! who are surviving and helping their families survive. What is the difference between picking a girl up in a bar in Sydney or New York, buying them a few drinks, dinner or even jewelery, then taking them home to your place for a night of frivolity and paying a girl whose company you enjoy a few dollars for their company for the night or longer.
I have known quite a few men who have walked into a bar in Manila bought one of the bar girls a drink, paid their bar fine and took them back to the hotel for the night and ended up marrying the girl. Of course it wasn’t love at first sight, it was a business deal. Money fo! r sex. But the girl gave the man what he wanted and he gave the girl what she wanted.
I kept asking him, if he wasn’t happy with his first wife, why did all of his others look so much like her. Even his Asian wives and girlfriends had a striking resemblance to his first wife, who was Caucasian.
You have to make allowances, you have to compromise. Compromise is absolutely necessary in everything that you do. From the time that you are in the cradle to the time that you are put under the ground. Like the Rolling Stones sang, “you can’t always get what you want”. Do the best you can with what you are given.
Love is something that comes from within, you have to give it before you get it. Many times I have heard of people go out and looking for the love that they feel is missing from their lives; they never find it. Sometimes you have to stop looking for love and get on with your life, if you are an open and accepting person the love with find you, you don’t have to go out looking for it.
Don’t think of them as prostitutes, think of them as survivors, and lets face it, you are probably in your 40′s or 50′s by the time you get to the stage of your life where you are going to go to Asia to find a wife. At 50, you don’t want a virgin, and even if you do, you aren’! t going to get one. Who cares if the one you love worked in a bar half way across the world.
You can find love, if you are looking for it, and even if you pay for sex, even that can, ! with nurturing and a certain amount of a lack of jealousy, turn into love. You will never be sorry about taking a trip to Asia and sampling the delights of the Orient. You could end up returning home with a beautiful and wonderful wife.
Rod Stewart – That old feeling